Whats so important about failure?
In the current success driven world we often lose sight of the fact that a lot can be learned from our failures. Often we are told to forget about our failures and move on but I have found otherwise.
"I have failed my way to success" Edison
Im sure you can all remember a time in any aspect of life where you have failed at something and how that made you feel but what happened to you after that failure?? Did you stop take a big side step and avoid that failure or anything like it again or did you understand why you failed without dwelling and had another go?
Most of us view failure as a big negative something that if we are at our best should never happen. It can effect our confidence and destroy our self worth, but not if we have the correct mindset to deal with it.
We need to understand why it happened, what we can learn from it, how we can prevent it happening again, most importantly, not allow it to have a negative effect on future self and performance.
I work with people who are aiming to make changes in there lives and I have to be able to help them understand that its ok to fail as long as you learn from it. A lot of the time we find that clients understanding of failure comes built into there beliefs and value systems from a very young age, removing those blocks and that subconscious self sabotage is just one way of improving how we deal with failures.
I have worked and been a part of success and failures personally, with general population and sport performers a like. What I find is that those initial failures can often be hard to deal with but improve our long term success when dealt with the correct mindset. Lets be clear, I'm not saying to fail is better than to succeed and we set out to fail to learn more because we don't. Failure is a vital part of the learning process to success and should be not be dismissed and needs to be learned from.
Heres a few basic steps to help you get the best from your failures.
Step 1. Dwelling on failures will not allow you to think clearly and understand why they happened.
Step 2: Accountability is vital don't blame others understand what YOU can do differently.
Step 3: Comparisonist:- comparing yourself to others will only hamper your progress, understand what others do well but develop in your own way.
Step 4. If at first you don't succeed!!!!! Resilience is key, initial failures in any task can prevent us from making further attempts (learned helplessness) focus on that end result go